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Unread 8 Jul 2003, 16:24   #1
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Arrow wow, suicide and confusion...advice plz

I've always said that I have no respect for anyone that commits suicide, but I just got a phone call letting me know that one of my friends from work killed himself last night.

Now, I've had the discussion with him a few times about how if any of my friends ever commited suicide I wouldn't set foot near the funeral....but I've never been faced with it until now. I just don't know what to do about it. Part of me wants to go to the funeral, and part of me just wants to grab a box of beer and pretend like it never happened because I always said I wouldn't let it bother me, but it is bothering me. Do I crack and go to the funeral...or do I keep my way and say '**** YOU' and stay home.

I know there's some helpful folk around here, so please...work your magic.
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Unread 8 Jul 2003, 16:26   #2
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There should be no reason to resort to suicide, but assess his position and see if you can, if not respect, at least understand his decision.
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Go to the funeral. You wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
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well, his girlfriend just kicked him out of their house over the weekend and yesterday at work he was pretty upset about it, but I mean....****, we've all been dumped before, it's not a reason to go kill yourself
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Go to the funeral. You wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
Its the respectful thing to do, no matter what the situation. If you considered him a Friend thats the right thing to do. The funeral is supposed to be a celebration of his life and closure - I think its best to be part of that if you were in whatever way a part of his life.
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Well, the guy is dead and you're never going to see him again, whether you go to the funeral or not. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter.

However, look ahead in time and decide. If you do not go to the funeral, will you feel sorry that you never went to pay repects to the person he was and to extend your condoleances to his family/friends? Alternatively, if you do go, will you feel sorry for going against one of your principles?
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well, his girlfriend just kicked him out of their house over the weekend and yesterday at work he was pretty upset about it, but I mean....****, we've all been dumped before, it's not a reason to go kill yourself
Without knowing other things its hard to say that this was the only reason. A lot of crazy things happening can build up to the point of breakdown.
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Re: wow, suicide and confusion...advice plz

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I've always said that I have no respect for anyone that commits suicide
so you nearly didnt respect Billy Joel then? Tbh dilly, there isnt a choice about it, you should go without thinking about it
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Regardless of understanding, go. You will not spend the rest of your life cursing the fact that you did.
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Go to the funeral.

If one of my friends killed themselves, I'd selfishly hate the **** for putting me through that. But I personally could never live with myself if I missed a friends funeral no matter the cause of death.
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Don't go.

If you go, and another one of your friends kills themselves (knowing that you weren't serious) you will truly hate your self forever (and you'll be right to).

Have a special ceremony in private for him, and don't let anyone else know (because you do care, and you do understand).
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on a grand scale of things, it costs you nothing to go to the funeral, you have lost a friend, and the funeral is about saying goodbye and grieving.
You own it to both yourself and your friend to go, it may have been wrong for him ot commit suicide, but, there is nothing you can do about that now, so go, and grieve.
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Don't judge too quickly. There are many types of suicide, some come out of desperation, come come out of cowardice, some however come out of a genuine mental problem.

People who have genuine depression (not just people who get depressed) often find that it is too difficult a problem to deal with, unaware that there is medication available. You may never know the situation which brought on the suicide, but here is a few things to consider.

If it was his first attempt, then it was likely not just a cry-for-help desperation suicide. These people usually try several times before they succeed. It is possible your friend suffered some kind of mental break. Apparently, 10% of all suicides are people who have suffered a mental crisis, such as their first schitzophrenic break, and cannot cope. As the typical age for the first break is late teens to early 20s, and it is often brought on by crisis, who knows if this may have been the case?

The fact is, while suicide based on cowardice may be contemptable, that may simply not be the case here. Err on the side of respect, and go to the funeral.
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Unread 8 Jul 2003, 17:10   #14
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Don't go to any funerals. What's the point of visiting someone after they died. Too late, should have done that when they were still alive.
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Reasons to go:
To say good bye
Cause you don't want to look like a dick in front of everybody

Reasons not to go:
You said you wouldn't
It encourages suicide
You can say good bye without going to the funeral

I see it as basically coming down to the dick factor; not going could hurt some relations within that group of friends.

I don't particularly care for funerals. They don't 'help' with the grieving process. Etc.
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Go and console your mutual friends.

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I have a similar view on suicide but i'd go.

I just wouldn't change my view that it was a stupid waste of life
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Regardless of understanding, go. You will not spend the rest of your life cursing the fact that you did.
Exactly. One of the teachers at my old school committed suicide. None of us were allowed to go to his funeral apart from the ones in his tutor group... which didn't feel good.
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Suicide is rarely a rational decision, but I don't see why people are so-anti it. It's just a decision that someone makes what to do with their life.

If you don't go, then it may upset members of his family/friends, etc. For that reason I'd do. However, being a stubborn bastard myself, I can see the dilema. However, the dudes dead and presumably can't throw it back in your face.
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wow dilly. i've got the exact same attitude towards suicide. and i've told my friends that a lot. but i think when it comes down to it, i would go to the funeral to pay respects to the family and console my other friends.
in private i would probably say 'you bonehead.. wtf did you do that for?'
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Go, it was his choice (perhaps not the kindest or most sensible) but he did it and you should respect his decision.
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Go. You may not respect his decision, but you respect him.

As long as he was a friend, that's all that mattered.
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Suicide is almost imposible to understand from the out side, And while I personally feel it's a very selfish sulution in meny cases I would still recomend you go. In my first year at uni a had the missfortune of living a a halls flat where not 1 but 2 of my 6 flat mates atemped suicide. One not that seroisly but the other was in intensive care for 2 weeks. This girls life was happy to the outside and very few ppl could understand why she did it, on meny levels this included me. But just becaues i disaprove of what she did dosen't meen i didn't care for her and if she had died i would definatly go. As meny have said you are likly to regret it if you don't. For yourself as well as others please go.
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'Stubbornness vs Respect'


lol i cant even believe you're asking for help on what to do. Not everything is understandable to yourself, this included.
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thanks everyone.

I just got in from my place of work and we're going to close down for the day of the funeral and all of us are going to go.
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Go to the funeral. You wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
he's dead, remember ?
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so.. basically

'Stubbornness vs Respect'


lol i cant even believe you're asking for help on what to do. Not everything is understandable to yourself, this included.
well, I think it comes down to never being faced with this kind of situation before. I've been telling myself for pretty much all my life that I wouldn't go if it happened...and I know deep down inside I have to go....but I think it's just been drilled into my head for so long that I'm just not sure what to listen to
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I would want my friends to go to my funeral.
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personally id go, if only so you dont look like a complete ****. I know it sounds harsh but he was your friend, ok he did something that you completely disagree with, but atleast go to say goodbye with the rest of his friends/family.

As Dante has already said suicide is normally not exactly a rational decision (euthanasia aside- quality of life issues etc)
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No one can fully know how another person percieves and experiences this world. Hence we cannot say things like 'suicide is always pathetic' etc, since we don't know what kind of emotions they felt when deciding to kill themselves.

When this person killed himself we can only assume he genuinly felt the need to do this. Similar when a person does a cry-for-help suicide attept, they genuinly feel the need to do this. That's pretty obvious. Then it is up to other people to change this way of thinking.

Thinking along the lines of "Well last time I got dumped I didn't care at all, so there is no way I can understand why this person took his own life! That's just stupid" would be mixing up your mental condition with another persons mental condidion - a condition no one else beside that person can fully know.


So go to the funeral because he's dead, that's what you do when people die and you've known them.

Also feel sorry for his ex who probably isn't all too cheerful nowadays.


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If you still count him as your friend go. If you do not don't go.
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after the funeral, dig your friend up and eat his face.
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go, you will never have another chance to.
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I don't get this.
Me either. How does going to the funeral encourage suicide? Personally I've never seen anyone say "hey that guy went to so-in-so's funeral. I NEED TO KILL MYSELF!"
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No one can fully know how another person percieves and experiences this world. Hence we cannot say things like 'suicide is always pathetic' etc, since we don't know what kind of emotions they felt when deciding to kill themselves.

When this person killed himself we can only assume he genuinly felt the need to do this. Similar when a person does a cry-for-help suicide attept, they genuinly feel the need to do this. That's pretty obvious. Then it is up to other people to change this way of thinking.

Thinking along the lines of "Well last time I got dumped I didn't care at all, so there is no way I can understand why this person took his own life! That's just stupid" would be mixing up your mental condition with another persons mental condidion - a condition no one else beside that person can fully know.


So go to the funeral because he's dead, that's what you do when people die and you've known them.

Also feel sorry for his ex who probably isn't all too cheerful nowadays.


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Me either. How does going to the funeral encourage suicide? Personally I've never seen anyone say "hey that guy went to so-in-so's funeral. I NEED TO KILL MYSELF!"
"Gah, noone cares about me! I know people really care about someone in their funeral, I'll kill myself, then they'll all care!"

Or similar.
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Maybe the day you'll be into a suicide position you won't feel the same... Maybe he doesn't valuate life as high as you do, everyone has different opinions, views, choices for his or her life. If there's someone in this thread that I do not respect, it is you.
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he's already said he's going to go.
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heh, I found out tonight what happened(was talking to a guy that was there). He was out with a bunch of friends last night, and brought a gun with him. They stopped by a bar, that his brother owns, called 'The Boat'...it's right on the waterfront here. After they left, they were walking along the beach and he said 'hey guys, check this out' and he pulled out the gun and bang....right in front of his friends.
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That's horrible :/ I'm sorry Dilly
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omg.. that's horrible
though i'd have to question why he brought the gun in the first place
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omg.. that's horrible
though i'd have to question why he brought the gun in the first place
well, his ex goes to that bar every monday...so we couldn't help but think that maybe he wanted to find her :\
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