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pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:35

10 days ago I fell out with a very good friend. Ill spare you of the details, but I refused to speak to her purely because she insulted myself and my close friends from back home.

She was drunk, and by the time she made the comment I was sobre. Before hand if it was a guy who said it I would of turned round and hit him. The rage I had when she made her comment was immense. I wanted to pick her up by her throat and whack her against the wall, but I couldnt because shes female.

Anyway I managed to controle my anger and stepped outside for a cigarette. I was amazed with myself that I didnt blow.

The next day I returned to Birmingham for a few job interviews, villa match and to see the friends that she had insulted.

I expected a text message off her, none came. So when I returned back on Tuesday I didnt go and see her, I didnt see her on the wednesday until the evening. My girlfriend had come back and I went to see her late at night. I met her outside and we spoke and she told me that this girl was in her house. I walked in sat down and asked her the question

me "Are you going to apologise"
her "No"
me "Are you serious"
her "I dont think I have to apologise"
me "What the?!?"
her "I dont need this now, im going I cant deal with this"
me "**** it, Im going"

I left, slammed the door and went. She went out on friday night and each time she came upto my friends I either walked off or turned my back. Today i saw her and her friend leave a lecture. I spoke to her friend, shook his hand etc. I didnt look at her once.

30 minutes ago I received a text message. "Can we meet up for a drink at 8?"

I said yes.

What should I do? Forgive and Forget? Stand my ground? Not go?

Just to let you know, my friends back at home are like family, and seriously insulting them and me especially after each time she has come up we have looked after her like a princess, it insults me. Im a proud man, I dont have much but I have more than money purely because I have such a close relationship with my friends, thats why the spat we had esculated into what it is now.

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 18:38

Buy the biggest block of cheese you can, then share it with some itinerant hobo types.

Cannon_Fodder · 23 Jan 2006, 18:38

I wouldn't ruin something out of spite in case it was an accident. So see her and just clarify things.

Then punch her.

meglamaniac · 23 Jan 2006, 18:40

Well without knowing what exactly she did it's hard to say. If I was in your position and it's as serious as it sounds, then I'd go but make it clear that the first thing I wanted was an explanation. If one is forthcoming and it's something you can sort out, then fair enough.
However, I can't be doing with girls who think they can get away with murder just because they're only interested in the inside of their own heads. They want equal rights? Fine - treat her how you'd treat the fallout with one of your male mates. I have broken off contact with people before for similar reasons.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 18:40

Surrender to nothing my friend,

Icky Icky Icky Za-oooomba!

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:41

ok what she said, was in relation to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is pakistani. Im not racist. I just dont like many pakistanis, mainly because at my school it was sikhs, whites, blacks and pakistanis and my lot always got into a lot of arguments with the pakistanis us being the sikhs and me the one white guy. I got into a big fight with a group of pakistanis once on my own, and in general I dont trust them.

As I said her bf is pakistani, and she told me he was a pizza delivery boy. I laughed at this and she thought I was being racist etc etc. I explained that I was supportive of her relationship and as long as she was happy I was happy. I havent been critical of her bf since her initial involvement. I then went on to say

"If one of my friends was a pizza boy id laugh my head off"
"Well thats the difference isnt it"
"What do you mean"
"Well my boyfriend and his friends is are men"
"You and your friends are just boys"

This annoyed me and hit a chord. Its a personal insult, to me its like insulting my family, I dont care if she insulted me but she insults my friends and it oversteps the line.

Apothos · 23 Jan 2006, 18:42

At eight, send her a text telling her you'll be ten minutes late. Then at quarter-past, text her again saying you've been delayed at home but are on your way now, and will be about ten minutes. Ten minutes later text her again telling her to wait and that you're about ten minutes away.

Keep this up with increasingly ludicrous excuses for as long as it lasts then laugh at her the next time you see her.

meglamaniac · 23 Jan 2006, 18:45

If she's as close a friend as you originally said she should realise she owes you an apology. However, clearly she thought she was defending her boyfriend (even if she did get the wrong idea) so one may not necessarily be forthcoming.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 18:45

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Originally Posted by pig

ok what she said, was in relation to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is pakistani. Im not racist. I just dont like many pakistanis, mainly because at my school it was sikhs, whites, blacks and pakistanis and my lot always got into a lot of arguments with the pakistanis us being the sikhs and me the one white guy. I got into a big fight with a group of pakistanis once on my own, and in general I dont trust them.

As I said her bf is pakistani, and she told me he was a pizza delivery boy. I laughed at this and she thought I was being racist etc etc. I explained that I was supportive of her relationship and as long as she was happy I was happy. I havent been critical of her bf since her initial involvement. I then went on to say

"If one of my friends was a pizza boy id laugh my head off"
"Well thats the difference isnt it"
"What do you mean"
"Well my boyfriend and his friends is are men"
"You and your friends are just boys"

This annoyed me and hit a chord. Its a personal insult, to me its like insulting my family, I dont care if she insulted me but she insults my friends and it oversteps the line.

Thats it?!

Dude stop being a little bitch and move on.

Here I was thinking she said she ****ed your mom and sister at the same time....

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:47

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

Thats it?!

Dude stop being a little bitch and move on.

Here I was thinking she said she ****ed your mom and sister at the same time....

She might of said such a thing, to me its big, im a proud person.

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:48

Oh ye forgot to add, shes split up with her bf so I hear.

Ste · 23 Jan 2006, 18:50

pig, you are being a bit of a girl about this.

You laughed at her boyfriends 'occupation' and she gave a shit comeback.

It's hardly worth anything more than a "**** off" and then forget about it in my book.

But then I am too forgiving

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:52

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Originally Posted by Ste

pig, you are being a bit of a girl about this.

You laughed at her boyfriends 'occupation' and she gave a shit comeback.

It's hardly worth anything more than a "**** off" and then forget about it in my book.

But then I am too forgiving

i guess so, but i tried to make amends and she threw it back in my face which made me even more mad

JonnyBGood · 23 Jan 2006, 18:54

I wouldn't find that comment even vaguely insulting mainly due to the fact the reason I'm friends with the people I am friends with is because we are insanely childish at times and we all enjoy it. Regardless of whether she thinks she's right or not if she's not willing to apologise over something that offended you she's not worth much as a friend.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 18:56

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Originally Posted by pig

i guess so, but i tried to make amends and she threw it back in my face which made me even more mad

She offended you by not laying down for you?

Weak man.

Ste · 23 Jan 2006, 18:56

maybe you seriously offended her with the pizza delivery boy thing?

you should apologise to her for being childish.

Tomkat · 23 Jan 2006, 18:57

You insulted her first dude. She probably took just as much offence from your comment as you did from hers.

Her insult was lame and I doubt she meant it seriously.

Also, it is slightly humorous because she's trying to describe her pizza delivery boy (they aren't "pizza delivery men", are they?) as a man and more mature than you*.

*which, judging from your reaction, sounds like it might be true actually

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 18:57

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Originally Posted by Ste

maybe you seriously offended her with the pizza delivery boy thing?

you should apologise to her for being childish.

Better yet, take her out for pizza instead of coffee. Heh.

That's comedy folks.

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 18:58

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Originally Posted by Ste

maybe you seriously offended her with the pizza delivery boy thing?

you should apologise to her for being childish.

idd I probably shall, but she should apologise too

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She offended you by not laying down for you?

Weak man.

guess so yes

midge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 18:59

I'm with Ste on this, that doesn't really seem that bad to me and with her being drunk and probably just thinking it was a bit of silly tit for tat.

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 19:01

thanks for your replys guys ill try and drop my pride and make amends

Cannon_Fodder · 23 Jan 2006, 19:02

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Originally Posted by pig

ok what she said, was in relation to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is pakistani. Im not racist.

I don't think anyone who knew you would ever think that considering your girlfriend is muslim

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I just dont like many pakistanis, mainly because at my school it was sikhs, whites, blacks and pakistanis and my lot always got into a lot of arguments with the pakistanis us being the sikhs and me the one white guy. I got into a big fight with a group of pakistanis once on my own, and in general I dont trust them.

I'd agree, I don't know exactly why, but I do.

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As I said her bf is pakistani, and she told me he was a pizza delivery boy. I laughed at this and she thought I was being racist etc etc. I explained that I was supportive of her relationship and as long as she was happy I was happy. I havent been critical of her bf since her initial involvement. I then went on to say

If one of my mates was a pizzy delivery boy I'd laugh at him and make jokes at the beginning, but women seem to always read too much into whatever is said to them.

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"If one of my friends was a pizza boy id laugh my head off"
"Well thats the difference isnt it"
"What do you mean"
"Well my boyfriend and his friends is are men"
"You and your friends are just boys"

At first I thought, 'What the hell is wrong here' But reading it again I see what you mean since
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This annoyed me and hit a chord. Its a personal insult, to me its like insulting my family, I dont care if she insulted me but she insults my friends and it oversteps the line.

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 19:03

theres a difference between a pakistani and an arab, arabs dont like pakistanis mainly because there knowledge of islam is shit, they quote rubbish and take it to extremes without understanding it, im talking about british pakistani muslims btw.

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:04

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Originally Posted by pig

thanks for your replys guys ill try and drop my pride and make amends

and buy cheese.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 19:05

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

and buy cheese.

YOU ARE NOT CONTRIBUTING TO THE PRODUCTIVITY OF THIS THREAD, SIR!

MODS, SEIZE HIM!!!

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 19:06

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

and buy cheese.

what type?

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:14

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

YOU ARE NOT CONTRIBUTING TO THE PRODUCTIVITY OF THIS THREAD, SIR!

MODS, SEIZE HIM!!!

THAT'S ANTI-AMERICAN SENTIMENT

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:15

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Originally Posted by pig

what type?

The largest type.

pig · 23 Jan 2006, 19:17

interesting

Cannon_Fodder · 23 Jan 2006, 19:19

quite.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 19:21

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

THAT'S ANTI-AMERICAN SENTIMENT

How, pray tell, is that anti-american sentiment?

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:24

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

How, pray tell, is that anti-american sentiment?

I'm imploring pig to follow the example of Andrew Jackson.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 19:27

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

I'm imploring pig to follow the example of Andrew Jackson.

Andrew Jackson did not enjoy cheese, sir. And if he did, then it surely was not black cheese.

UNLESS PIG'S BUYING AMERICAN CHEESE THEN HE IS NOT ACTING TO HIS FULL AMERICAN POTENTIAL, AND AS SUCH...

MODS, SEIZE HIM!!!

Dante Hicks · 23 Jan 2006, 19:28

I'm quite a big fan of over-reactions, and wouldn't mind ending a friendship over something like this (although, in this specific case as others have said - she wasn't being that rude and may not have understood the implications of what she said). I'd go and see what she has to say, apologise for your bit and then see what she says. Explained why you were annoyed and if she apologises then I'd move on. If not then probably **** her.

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:40

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

Andrew Jackson did not enjoy cheese, sir.

Knoweth thine presidents.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 19:46

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

Knoweth thine presidents.

I would like to hearby state that the cheese was infact present, however there is no substantial evidence that Jackson himself partook in the heretic events.

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:49

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

I would like to hearby state that the cheese was infact present, however there is no substantial evidence that Jackson himself partook in the heretic events.

He did, however, acquire the cheese.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 19:52

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

He did, however, acquire the cheese.

Be that as it may, aquiring and partaking are two different things.

Furthermore, I would presume to assume that his lackeys or secret service (if such a thing existed back then) aquired it for him.

The President is a terribly busy man, afterall.

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 19:57

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

Be that as it may, aquiring and partaking are two different things.

Indeed they are. The significant difference in this context is that I introduced the former and you introduced the latter.

QazokRouge5 · 23 Jan 2006, 20:00

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Originally Posted by MrL_JaKiri

Indeed they are. The significant difference in this context is that I introduced the former and you introduced the latter.

Does this then mean that you shall produce the former (vagina) and I shall produce the latter (sperm)?

MrL_JaKiri · 23 Jan 2006, 20:06

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Originally Posted by QazokRouge5

Does this then mean that you shall produce the former (vagina) and I shall produce the latter (sperm)?

This is getting off the point of pig buying some damn cheese.

G.K Zhukov · 23 Jan 2006, 20:41

pig, wtf is wrong with you?

Seriously, get a grip.

meglamaniac · 23 Jan 2006, 20:44

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Originally Posted by G.K Zhukov

Seriously, get a grip.

Lawl lawl on your oh i can't be bothered.

Dead_Meat · 23 Jan 2006, 21:01

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Originally Posted by pig

Oh ye forgot to add, shes split up with her bf so I hear.

If that's the case, you could make amends by waiting a week or so until your own gf is out of town/washing her hair/at a lecture/asleep and take her out for a drink, apologise, tell her she's beautiful and proceed to **** her, feel guilty about it, come back here, write a thread about it and we can all tell you that, predictably, 'you should have had more sex with her'

OK?

NEWSBOT3 · 23 Jan 2006, 21:11

im going out to buy cheese tonight.

Perhaps something continental.

G.K Zhukov · 23 Jan 2006, 21:14

If he havent already ****** her, DM.

Dante Hicks · 23 Jan 2006, 21:19

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Originally Posted by NEWSBOT3

Perhaps something continental.

Faggot.

Dead_Meat · 23 Jan 2006, 21:23

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Originally Posted by G.K Zhukov

If he havent already ****** her, DM.

There must be a few left in Birmingham that haven't been introduced to 'Pig's pink pork pocket poker'

NEWSBOT3 · 23 Jan 2006, 21:31

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Originally Posted by Dante Hicks

Faggot.

PERHAPS NOT

I HAVE YET TO DECIDE

Nodrog · 23 Jan 2006, 21:46

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Originally Posted by pig

"You and your friends are just boys"
.

Youve really managed to prove her wrong on this one, what with the whole passive-aggressitivity, the 'posting about it on the internet', and:

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I left, slammed the door and went. She went out on friday night and each time she came upto my friends I either walked off or turned my back. Today i saw her and her friend leave a lecture. I spoke to her friend, shook his hand etc. I didnt look at her once.

I'm not trying to be a dick, but your overreaction is hilarious. She was obviously just lashing out in the heat of the moment due to the fact you were acting like an obnoxious wanker (LOL PIZZAS!!!). It really isnt her that should be apologising, but hey.