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30 Jan 2004, 18:02
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how should I handle this?
I know it's silly to ask serious questions to GDers and expect serious answers...but, whatever..I'll ask anyways 
Alright, one of my college profs is this like really fit bird right, and she's only 2 years older than me...and it's become apparent that she is 'diggin on me'. Also, valentine's day is comming up and were having this big valentine's day formal and she wants me to go with her as her date. So, would it be wrong for me to hook up with her...or is that like, not really a good idea seeing as she's like...my teacher?
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30 Jan 2004, 18:04
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Re: how should I handle this?
depends what the college rules are on teacher/student shagging
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30 Jan 2004, 18:09
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Re: how should I handle this?
well, the good thing is that she's only here for this year...she's filling in for another prof that's on sabbatical...so she'll be done in April. But, I don't think college really has rules on that sort of thing do they?
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If I could be a bird, I'd be a Flying Purple People Eater because then people would sing about me and I could fly down and eat them because I hate that song.
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30 Jan 2004, 18:10
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Re: how should I handle this?
I reckon that if a teacher is found to have a relationship with one of his/her students, (s)he will be fired as it would lead to a conflict of interests (eg. her giving you good grades because you shag her). This rule is very likely to be in place in practically every college/university.
Either don't, or wait until she no longer is your teacher.
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30 Jan 2004, 18:26
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Re: how should I handle this?
"handle with care"
What do you mean "clear that she likes you"?
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30 Jan 2004, 18:39
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Re: how should I handle this?
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What do you mean "clear that she likes you"?
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she's told a friend of mine, who is actually a mutual friend, but she (my teacher) didn't know that I also know this girl, that she digs on me...and I found out through this mutual friend. And actually, last night I was out with my prof and a 'date' i guess. We went out for 'a drink' after class (around 3pm), and ended up hanging out till around 9pm talking about everything and anything
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30 Jan 2004, 18:41
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Re: how should I handle this?
bad idea. you're grades are on the line :\
also, yes she could be fired if the school found out.
if she's done in april, that's only a few months to wait.
ps.. i thought you said i was the one for you ;(
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30 Jan 2004, 18:43
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Re: how should I handle this?
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What do you mean "clear that she likes you"?
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asking him to be her date on valentine's day is quite obvious...
it's her buisness wether this is against the rules or not, you shouldn't worry about that if she doesn't. how do you feel about other students finding out about this tho ?
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30 Jan 2004, 18:56
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Re: how should I handle this?
where's she going when she's done?if you actually want a relationship with her, then i would say go ahead.
but if you are just looking for ass, it might save you some worrying to just buy a hooker.
plus everything atomic.cow said
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30 Jan 2004, 19:01
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Oh Canada!
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Re: how should I handle this?
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it's her buisness wether this is against the rules or not, you shouldn't worry about that if she doesn't. how do you feel about other students finding out about this tho ?
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I don't care much if other students know cuz it's no secret that I'm smart I'm already an honours student...so if I got high marks in her class I don't think anyone would think twice about it...alot of the people in my class are actually encouraging me to hook up with her
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30 Jan 2004, 19:08
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Re: how should I handle this?
teacher's pet! 
But seriously, some other teachers may be worried about the violation of the student/teacher relationship. Which could be bad. How about you wait?
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30 Jan 2004, 19:12
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Re: how should I handle this?
Obviously it's fine.
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30 Jan 2004, 19:12
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Re: how should I handle this?
It's not the opinion of the students you need to worry about, they don't have the ability to fire your teacher or remove your grades anyway :P
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30 Jan 2004, 19:15
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Re: how should I handle this?
what about your feelings about her?
you just wanna shag her or what?!
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30 Jan 2004, 19:59
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Oh Canada!
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Re: how should I handle this?
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what about your feelings about her?
you just wanna shag her or what?!
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hmm...well, she's a cool chick man...beautiful, great sense of humour, smart...I just wonder what she'd want with a guy like me
as for shagging...well, take it as it comes I guess
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30 Jan 2004, 20:16
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Re: how should I handle this?
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hmm...well, she's a cool chick man...beautiful, great sense of humour, smart...I just wonder what she'd want with a guy like me
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ask her after valentines day (and tell i am quite curious)
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30 Jan 2004, 23:18
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Re: how should I handle this?
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she's told a friend of mine, who is actually a mutual friend, but she (my teacher) didn't know that I also know this girl, that she digs on me...and I found out through this mutual friend. And actually, last night I was out with my prof and a 'date' i guess. We went out for 'a drink' after class (around 3pm), and ended up hanging out till around 9pm talking about everything and anything
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Woho! You actually fall for this?
She's playing you like the unsecure bitch you are. It's like 'go on go on, she lieks you n stuff'..
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31 Jan 2004, 02:30
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Re: how should I handle this?
Go for it,you only live once.
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31 Jan 2004, 02:41
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Re: how should I handle this?
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Go for it,you only live once.
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Actually, he has a point.
Go for it. At the very least you'll be able to tell your grandchildren you've slept with your teacher 
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31 Jan 2004, 04:18
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Re: how should I handle this?
I'd have to question the judgment of any teacher who dates one of his/her students (or supervisor/employee for that matter). It may or may not be against school policy (it varies by school), but it's certainly not very professional.
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31 Jan 2004, 09:08
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Re: how should I handle this?
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I'd have to question the judgment of any teacher who dates one of his/her students (or supervisor/employee for that matter). It may or may not be against school policy (it varies by school), but it's certainly not very professional.
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I see your point, but as I've said, she's only there for the 03-04 school year...our finals are done on April 23...at which time she's no longer a prof and she goes back to her real job, it's not like I'd really hook up with her till then, as it would be a total conflict of interest for both of us. But I don't really see any harm in being her date for the valentine's dance.
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31 Jan 2004, 11:59
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Re: how should I handle this?
no harm in the date? that kind of depends how much nakedness is involved at the end of it
that your whole class knows about this it gives me a very bad feeling
your place of education sounds far far to gossipy for the kind of thing that could ruin her career
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31 Jan 2004, 16:58
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Re: how should I handle this?
Well even if it is a problem, she'll be blamed. It shouldn't be a problem though.
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31 Jan 2004, 17:46
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Re: how should I handle this?
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It's not the opinion of the students you need to worry about, they don't have the ability to fire your teacher or remove your grades anyway :P
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You just know there's gonna be one prick who thinks it's putting the grade curve in danger or something and complain.
I'd say there's an excellent chance of her getting fired for this, but if she doesn't care, no probs.
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31 Jan 2004, 17:47
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Re: how should I handle this?
She should know better if it carries any dangerous consequences for you, so bat for a homerun and see what happens.
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31 Jan 2004, 22:48
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Re: how should I handle this?
How can a Professor be only 2 years older than you? You study in America, presumably?
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31 Jan 2004, 23:18
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Re: how should I handle this?
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How can a Professor be only 2 years older than you? You study in America, presumably?
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I'm in Canada...she's 27, I'm 25
/edit: she's a graduate of the program I'm in, and she has a degree in psychology as well. Also, she's teaching us a class on how the probation/parole system works, and she's been a probation/parole officer for 5 years...so she knows a thing or two about it. That's how she's a professor that's only 2 years older than me
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1 Feb 2004, 00:51
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Re: how should I handle this?
Dude,
I think you should corn-hole her, take pictures during, and e-mail them to me so I can have a good wank0r.
That way, if there's any complications or awkwardness when it comes to grade time, you'll be sitting on a 4.0.
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1 Feb 2004, 01:02
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Re: how should I handle this?
When I visited the college I used to be at, one of the teachers gave me a hug. \o/
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1 Feb 2004, 01:08
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Re: how should I handle this?
lol this reminds me of of 'teacher porn' on the internet....some american pr0nactrice playing a french teacher but she's not able to pronounce the french words correctly. :P
hilarious!
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1 Feb 2004, 01:45
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Re: how should I handle this?
everything reminds you of porn
me too by the way
today i was at my gf's place and her mother had some music on and i almost said 'this reminds me of the bad german porn on sbs6 with the guy with the white tennissocks in it you used to watch when you were 15!'
almost
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Re: how should I handle this?
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Obviously it's fine.
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dane has the right of it, you should go for it mate, as she will know if there are any strict rules agains student/teacher relationships
and good luck
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1 Feb 2004, 04:34
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Re: how should I handle this?
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it's certainly not very professional.
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Oh please. This is not like a high school were there is some kind of guardian type relationship going on. These people are in ther mid-twenties for Christ's sake.
What's the problem? I understand there is an issue of grading, but in any half-decent institution any paper/work worth anything at all will be double/treble marked anyway.
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1 Feb 2004, 04:36
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Re: how should I handle this?
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one of my college profs is this like really fit bird right
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she is 'diggin on me'.
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is that like, not really a good idea seeing as she's like...my teacher?
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The English language is your friend!
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1 Feb 2004, 06:05
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Re: how should I handle this?
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The English language is your friend!
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that is all in english my fireind, what's yo beef?
sometimes I find proper english to be far to shite to use, this was one of those times
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Re: how should I handle this?
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Oh please. This is not like a high school were there is some kind of guardian type relationship going on. These people are in ther mid-twenties for Christ's sake.
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I don't really see that age is the relevant issue here. The same issues come up between care-givers/patients, lawyers/clients, employers/employees, etc.
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What's the problem? I understand there is an issue of grading, but in any half-decent institution any paper/work worth anything at all will be double/treble marked anyway.
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It is, as I said, not very professional. Most of the professional organizations to which academics belong have policy statements governing the actions of their members towards students, both in and out of the classroom. The reasons for these policies should be obvious. Inappropriate actions of professors towards students creates conflicts of interest and even where no actual conflict occurs there still can be the appearance of same. These can reflect poorly on the profession; ergo the policies.
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1 Feb 2004, 13:53
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Re: how should I handle this?
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I don't really see that age is the relevant issue here.
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It's relevent because with much younger students (e.g. children) there is an issue of trust/care/guardianship. This wouldn't apply in this case.
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I'd have no problem with any of those people being in relationships. I'd have a problem with a Judge & defendent for instance (for obvious reasons) but otherwise I don't see the problem.
For instance, I'd imagine most people wouldn't have too much of a problem with an employer being good friends with his or her employees, so I don't see what difference screwing makes really.
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Inappropriate actions of professors towards students creates conflicts of interest and even where no actual conflict occurs there still can be the appearance of same.
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I don't really see it as inappropriate, but I don't think the point of education is "grades" anyway so I guess I'd see it differently.
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