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Hebdomad · 18 Dec 2006, 18:57

I've often wondered something similar.

When I was around 16 one of my friend told me he was gay. I didn't care; I enjoyed his company because we shared similar interests (with the exception anal sex with another gentleman, obviously), and his sexuality didn't bother me before he told me and it didn't bother me after. However, over time he became more and more camp. It was like he was conforming to a stereotype. I never understood why.

Obviously everyone conforms to a certain extent; no one wants to be an outsider - everyone wants to be accepted. But I suppose when you declare to the world you're gay/lesbian/transsexual/a poster on a popular internet discussion board you're automatically setting yourself out as different - a potential outsider. So you seek a group where people personally understand your sexuality.

I can only assume to "belong" to a group you have to exhibit some characteristic. For example, to belong to this board you have to be overly cynical and adept at calling people arseholes in witty and charismatic ways.

There's also probably something about telling the world you're different and sod you if you don't like it, or something like that, but I'm boring myself now. Why aren't I down the pub. Because it's not 9.30 that's why. There was a good scholtt's (or whoever) almanac in The Guardian today. It's a pity you didn't buy it. It was very amusing. The good people of Birmingham are the most likely to search with the word "porn" in the whole wide-world, and the second most likely to search for "kitten". See? You've learnt something today. Goodbye.

18 Dec 2006, 18:57	#13
Hebdomad I ♡ ☠ Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 834	Re: Self inflicted Pigeonholing I've often wondered something similar. When I was around 16 one of my friend told me he was gay. I didn't care; I enjoyed his company because we shared similar interests (with the exception anal sex with another gentleman, obviously), and his sexuality didn't bother me before he told me and it didn't bother me after. However, over time he became more and more camp. It was like he was conforming to a stereotype. I never understood why. Obviously everyone conforms to a certain extent; no one wants to be an outsider - everyone wants to be accepted. But I suppose when you declare to the world you're gay/lesbian/transsexual/a poster on a popular internet discussion board you're automatically setting yourself out as different - a potential outsider. So you seek a group where people personally understand your sexuality. I can only assume to "belong" to a group you have to exhibit some characteristic. For example, to belong to this board you have to be overly cynical and adept at calling people arseholes in witty and charismatic ways. There's also probably something about telling the world you're different and sod you if you don't like it, or something like that, but I'm boring myself now. Why aren't I down the pub. Because it's not 9.30 that's why. There was a good scholtt's (or whoever) almanac in The Guardian today. It's a pity you didn't buy it. It was very amusing. The good people of Birmingham are the most likely to search with the word "porn" in the whole wide-world, and the second most likely to search for "kitten". See? You've learnt something today. Goodbye.