body language
does anyone of you know about that stuff? Is it usefull to know about it? I'm just reading a book about it and it all seems pretty much fascinating, even if a bit surreal. I neven even thought about how I shake hands.
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Ive read a fair few books on it. However ive never delved into Neuro Linguistic Programming that much which is a kind of continuation of the subject. How you stand/act/move/talk etc are all indicative of what you are really thinking.
How you shake hands is important and shows how you feel about someone else. What you say and word choice is also increadibly important. Saying 'i respect what you are saying but' actually means 'i dont respect what you are saying at all so shutup and let me talk' etc etc |
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I watch people's body language alot
When someone walks around with his feet pointing outwards I always assume he's a dumbass that I shouldnt take seriously |
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I can't help that :( |
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Well depending who/where you read, it does seem to make sense..
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this is a perfect example of forum sarcasm. Re-read it if you dont understand. |
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Alan Pease is very good. He's an australian dude. I have a video with him on it somewhere here that deals with body language. You may also wish to read stuff by Dale Carnegie as he is also one of those 'big names'. |
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How does how you shake hands say anything significant about you?
Apparantly i have a weakish handshake. I don't think i'm a weak/passive person (i just don't think that trying to hurt somebody is a particularly good first impression ... it's too aggressive for a start ... makes people think they're in a competition with you ... the best way to win a war is to make sure the other person doesn't know that they're in one etc etc etc) |
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I've got a rather weak handshake as well, I tend to blame it on being left-handed.
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It just does. If its too firm then i always think 'is he trying to prove something to me? like some kind of 'im teh man' thing??' if its too weak i think 'HMM POSSIBLY A HOMO. BETTER NOT TURN MY BACK' It shoudl be firm but not make the other person wince or anything. You are also meant to look them in the eye as you do it. I think it goes back to 'teh olden days'. |
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Before I met my ex-girlfriends mother my ex kept telling me that the one thing I should try to do is have a firm handshake. Since I am otherwise rather "unpresentable" I kept this in mind but by the time I met her, I had hyped it up in my mind so much I probably tried to break the bitches arm when I shook it.
I'm not really sure what that tells me about me except "I'm shit", and I hardly needed complex psychological theory for that little lesson. |
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Easy.
When a girl starts rubbing her breats at the pub whilst looking at you it means you'll get laid. When a man starts rubbing his penis at the pub it means he'll get jailed. |
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A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. A friends girlfriend thought she knew it all because she'd read a book on body language.
So she would do things like accuse you of lying if you closed your eyes at any stage when talking to her. This, she says, was a sign in the book that you are hiding something. What a load of utter shit. That or she would only believe you if you looked up when telling a story, this she said ment that you were recalling things from your brain. If you looked down you were lying again. I asked her what would it mean if I had a clenched fist. She said it ment that I was emotionally stunted. I explained it ment I wanted to twat her in the face. Everyone thought I was joking. I wasn't. He dumped her last week for, quote, "wrecking my ****ing head with her incessant pseudo-pyschologial bullshit". |
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(i don't think that's a bad thing personally. he's a silly prick at the best of times ...) |
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Body language can be read, but it takes practice and isn't always text book.
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Some body 'languages' may be quite similar, but I think much of it varies from person to person.
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Anyway, I guess I'll just finish reading it and then pay a little more attention to body language to see if its of any use. |
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The problem with body language and NLP (especially NLP because holy shit theres a lot of bullshit there) is the complete lack of supporting evidence for the claims made in popular accounts So, person X doing Y means that they think Z. Well ok, how do you know this? Are we honestly meant to believe that the author has performed a controlled survey to find these things out, or is it more likely that he's basing his claims purely on anecdotes and intuition, perhaps backed up by the notorious spectre of common wisdom? The handshake thing someone mentioned earlier in this thread is a pretty blatent example of this - "you can tell a lot about a person from the way they shake hands". Can you? How the hell do you know? You might as well claim that people who see penises in inkblots are gay (lol Rorschach).
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Its clearly not fool proof tho and unless you actually know what you are looking for its somewhat stupid to say 'omg lies' whenever anyone blinks or looks in a certain direction. Quote:
I do think theres something 'in it' (both NLP and body language research) because theres been too many studies done and too many people have observed it working. Best example currently would probably be Derren Brown. He uses NLP constantly. I think it *can* work on some people and its more 'it will give you an advantage when talking with certain types of people' as opposed to 'omg i have psychic powers and the ability to tell if you are lying by the look of your shifty eyes'. |
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That was my gripe really, I'm not discounting body language but there are plenty of people who treat little bits of information like that as gospel. And they just deserve a slap. I recalled another one of her little gems just now, once while talking to my friend (her fella) I scratched my nose. This ment that I was, once again, lying. Something she lept into and announced to our large group of friends. When I quizzed her about it she said that touching or scratching your nose ment you're lying because the blood capillaries fill with the same reflex as blushing and when you're lying. Hence making your nose itchy. Deriding her little nonsense only confirmed in her mind that she was right, because I protested too much. (admittidly she got that little gem from Shakespeare, not Body Language books) Derren Brown is an interesting character when it comes to body language and psychology. I watched an interesting interview with him where he went into detail about how he manages to do what he does with people. In it he claimed to hold a degree in clinical hypnosis, which he got bored with, then proceeded to get a further 3 degrees over the years in various forms of psychology. Something which placed the interviewer at ease and allowed Derren to "work his tricks" on him. Problem is, Derren lied. He has a degree alright. Only one. In Law and German from the University of Bristol. So his 'powers' are from personal research into subjects like this. Which means that there has to be some truth to the various areas he uses. Body language being one. |
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